[klondike98]

There many opinions out there on how to do the refinish but you have the general process down I think.

I use citristrip (its a little gentler than some others) or just lacquer thinner to strip.  (even with the chemical strip I follow-up with a wipe down with lacquer thinner to get the remaining residue off) If you use lacquer thinner approach...do it outside!!!  I would put down a layer of sanding sealer before you do the grain fill (deft sells a spray version though I have to order mine online since the stores rarely carry it).  The grain fill can stain and darken the wood and the sealer tends to prevent that.  Toner coats are as few or many as needed to get the tone you are looking for.  I would use black on the trim.  I've used an acrylic paint sometimes and black lacquer sometimes, both seem to work for me.  The veneer chip looks pretty small and may be tough to reveneer.  There's a tutorial that Kirk did, but if its small you might just be able to fill it with your grain filler or some Timbermate (walnut).  When toned it may not show much at all.  I would use gloss clear lacquer, then let the final coat of it dry for several weeks before the final sand and rub out with pumice and rottenstone (some folks use other polishing compounds).  

There are several folks on the Phorum who are really excellent at refinishing so I hope they will offer their advice as well.